BDSM is a term which describes a number of related patterns of human sexual behaviour. The major subgroupings are described in the abbreviation "BDSM" itself:
Many of the specific practices in BDSM are those which, if performed in neutral or nonsexual contexts, are widely considered
unpleasant, undesirable, or disadvantageous. For example, pain, physical restraint and
servitude are traditionally inflicted on persons against their will and to their detriment. In BDSM, however, these activities
are engaged in with the mutual consent of the participants, and typically for mutual
enjoyment.
This emphasis on informed consent and safety is also known as
SSC (safe, sane and consensual), though others
prefer RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), which
places the emphasis more on informed consent, and acknowledges the fact that all activities are potentially risky.
Psychological
In the past, sadomasochistic activities and fantasies were regarded by most psychiatrists as pathological, but have been regarded as increasingly acceptable since at least the 1990s. Indeed, the DSM-IV asserts that "The fantasies,
sexual urges, or behaviors" must "cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important
areas of functioning" in order for sexual sadism or masochism to be considered a disorder. People who practice BDSM tend to
reject the view of their activities as disordered.
Power exchange
On a psychological level, much BDSM play involves power
and dominance, in particular power exchange of
various forms. One person may willingly and consciously hand over personal autonomy or the power dynamic may arise between the
parties in the relationship as a spontaneous result of their interpersonal chemistry, in which case no conscious decision is
made. This power can manifest in an endless variety of relationship dynamics. Some of the variations include:
- addressing another person as "Master" or "Mistress" for a ten-minute scene.
- a witnessed, formal collaring with a lifelong agreement between
the parties for the dominant to provide an ongoing presence in the submissive's life. See TPE. Collared slaves have responsibilities and duties that vary from the moderate to extreme micro-management.
- an agreement of service that covers the duties and responsibilities of the submissive that may or may not include a long term
commitment. Some service relationships are understood to last only as long as the submissive maintains performance
standards.
According to most practitioners, the power exchange should always be negotiated. Before play, the participants discuss their
physical and psychological limitations, establish safewords (words that will signal
the cessation of the scene), and work out what activities they will engage in.
However, many reject extensive negotiation and eschew the use of safewords, preferring instead to accept heightened risk and
facilitate a more "natural" interaction. The conflict between the need for risk and the need for limitations and safety is at the
heart of the SSC and RACK controversies.
Submissive behavior
A submissive person is one who submits of their own free will and seeks to submit to another. Within a S&M-only context
particularly, submissive is often considered synonymous with bottom
while others opine that a "submissive" is specifically pursuing a D&S power-exchange as a key element, whereas a "bottom" may
or may not be interested (or even willing) to engage in what is called power-exchange. Some have proposed the "pitcher" and
"catcher" (borrowed from baseball terminology) as more neutral terminology, with
the "pitcher" delivering the sensation, the instruction, etc; and the "catcher" receiving what is "pitched."
Submissives vary in how seriously they take their position, training, and situation. Motivations for engaging in submissive
behavior may include relief from responsibility, being the object of attention and affection, gaining a sense of security,
showing off endurance, and working through issues of shame. Others simply enjoy a 'natural' feeling when they are in the presence
of their partner. What are known as service-oriented submissive may
also have a deep seated desire to be "of use". Bottoms also vary in the extent to which they engage in play, in how often they
play, and even in whether they consider their role "play" at all.
Dominant behavior
A dominant person enjoys being in control of a submissive person. Reasons for this are said to include demonstrating skill and
power, having ownership of another person, and being the object of affection and devotion. Domination may be the fashion in which
the dominant feels most comfortable expressing and/or receiving affection. Service oriented dominants
would add that it is obviously useful to have the resources and abilities of another human at their disposal.
Of course, other known possible motives remain to be considered, including pleasure taken not only in sheer power, but in the
suffering of others, thrill seeking in risk taking, and outright self destructiveness. That is why many in the BDSM community are
concerned with establishing the motivations of those involved in an encounter and advise caution in making BDSM connections.
Switching
Some practitioners of BDSM enjoy switching — that is,
playing both dominant and submissive roles, either during a single scene or taking on different roles at different occasions with
different partners. A switch will be the top on some occasions and the bottom on other occasions. A 'switch' may be in a relationship with someone of the same primary orientation
(two dominants, say), so switching provides each partner with an opportunity to realize his or her unsatisfied BDSM needs with
others.
Safety
Some BDSM activities may be potentially dangerous if appropriate precautions are neglected. One aspect to ensure safety is to
agree upon a safeword. If the Dominant and submissive are in a scene that causes
unacceptable discomfort for one or both of them, a safe word can be uttered to warn the Dominant of trouble and
immediately call for a stop to the scene.
Adequate care is prudent in bondage to ensure safety from injury.
For activities involving bodily fluids, hygienic precautions should be duly considered for avoiding the spread of sexually transmitted diseases.
Various practices
BDSM may encompass practices such as erotic spanking, flagellation, such as flogging, paddling or whipping, or medical submission (i.e. a submissive partner submits to humiliating
and/or painful medical procedures).
BDSM activities are practiced by male and female individuals of all sexualities: gay or straight, or bisexual, as well as the transgendered. Many practice
their BDSM activities exclusively in private, and do not share their predilections with others. Others socialize with other BDSM
practitioners. The BDSM community can be regarded as a subculture within
mainstream society. Being involved in BDSM or Dominant/submissive relationships on a regular basis is often referred to as being
"in the lifestyle".
Some sources estimate the prevalence of BDSM behavior in countries such as the United States at around 5 to 10% of the adult
population. While the stereotype of heterosexual BDSM is a male dominant and female submissive, the reality is almost evenly
split between "maledom" and "femdom"
couples.
Physiological
On a physical level, BDSM "sensation play" often
involves inflicting pain, even if without actual injury. This releases endorphins, creating a sensation somewhat like runner's high or the afterglow of orgasm, sometimes called
"flying", which some find enjoyable. Some writers use the term "body stress". This experience is the motivation for many in the
BDSM community but is not the only motivating factor. Indeed, a strong minority of BDSM participants (especially 'bottoms') may
well participate in a scene they do not derive any physical pleasure
from in order to provide their 'top' with an opportunity to indulge their desires or fetishes.
In some kinds of BDSM play, the 'top' (usually a dominant partner) applies sensation to the 'bottom' (usually a submissive
partner) by spanking, slapping, pinching, stroking or scratching with fingernails, or using implements like straps, whips,
paddles, canes, knives, hot wax, ice, clothespins, bamboo skewers, etc. The sensation of being bound with rope, chains, straps, cling wrap, handcuffs or other materials can also be part of the
experience. The tools of BDSM play encompass a wide variety of items from specifically designed implements to ordinary household
items, known as "pervertibles".
A pleasurable BDSM experience is thought to depend greatly upon a competent top and the bottom attaining the correct state of
mind. Trust and sexual arousal help a person prepare for the intense sensation. Some have even gone so far as to compare adept
BDSM play to musical composition and performance, each sensation like a musical note. Likewise, different sensations are combined
in different ways to produce the total experience.
Other points
- BDSM may or may not involve sex of any kind.
- BDSM may or may not involve sexual roleplaying.
- BDSM may or may not involve ageplay.
- How dominant or submissive a person may be in their regular life does not always determine their preferred role in BDSM play
though many people do manifest these tendencies. Often people who express one role in their regular life, such as at work,
strongly desire to express the opposite role within their sexual life, as a kind of release.
- BDSM play often includes the psychological pleasure of fetishes.
- Some BDSM players are polyamorous, or are sexually monogamous but engage in non-sexual play with others.
- A couple may engage in BDSM sexually, and otherwise have a completely normal relationship.
- When there is abuse in the relationship, the submissive is as likely to be abusive as
the dominant.
Terminology
See List of BDSM terms
History
The historical origins of BDSM are obscure. There are anecdotal reports of people willingly being bound or whipped as a
prelude to, or substitute for, sex going back to the fourteenth century. The medieval phenomenon of courtly love in all of its slavish devotion and ambivalence has been suggested by some writers to be a
precursor of BDSM. Some sources claim that BDSM as a distinct form of sexual behaviour originated at the beginning of the
eighteenth century when Western civilization began medically
and legally categorizing sexual behaviour. Other sources give a broader definition citing BDSM-like behaviour in earlier times
and other cultures, such as the medieval flagellants and the physical ordeal rituals of some Native
American societies.
Although the names of the Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch are attached to the terms
sadism and masochism respectively, the
question remains as to whether their ways of life would meet with modern BDSM standards of informed consent.
BDSM ideas and imagery have existed on the fringes of Western culture throughout the twentieth century. Some of the key artists were John
Willie and Eric Stanton. Robert Bienvenu attributes the
origins of modern BDSM to three sources, which he names as "European Fetish" (from 1928), "American Fetish" (from 1934), and "Gay
Leather" (from 1950). Another source is the sexual games played in brothels, which go back into the nineteenth
century if not earlier.
Much of the BDSM ethos can be traced back to gay male leather
culture, which grew out of post-WWII biker culture. This subculture is epitomized by the Leatherman's Handbook by
Larry Townsend, published in 1972, which essentially defined the "Old Guard leather" culture. This
code emphasized strict formality and fixed roles (i.e. no switching), and did not really include lesbian women or heterosexuals. In 1981, however, the publication of
Coming to Power by
Samois led to a greater knowledge and acceptance of BDSM in the lesbian community.
In the mid-nineties, the Internet provided a way of finding people with
specialized interests around the world and communicating with them anonymously. This brought about an explosion of interest and
knowledge of BDSM, particularly on the usenet group alt.sex.bondage. When that group became too choked with spam, the focus moved to soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm
(http://groups.google.com/groups?q=soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm&ie=UTF-8&hl=en&btnG=Google+Search).
New Guard leather subculture appeared around this time.
BDSM and fetish imagery has spread out into the mainstream of Western culture through avant-garde fashion, the gothic
subculture, rap, hip-hop and heavy metal video
clips, and science fiction television and movies.
The modern BDSM subculture is widespread. Most major cities in North America and western Europe have clubs and play parties, as well as informal, low-pressure gatherings called
munches. There are also conventions like Living in Leather, TESfest and Black Rose, as well as the
annual Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco.
The Leather Pride Flag is a symbol used by the leather
community or subculture.
Notable authors (fiction and non-fiction):
Notable graphic artists and fetish artists
Notable photographers
Notable publishers (fiction and non-fiction):
Support groups:
- The Society of Janus, pansexual, San Francisco
- Leathermen's Discussion Group, men only, San Francisco
- The 15
Association, men only, San Francisco
- The Exiles, women only, San Francisco
- smOdyssey, pansexual, San Jose
- The Santa Clara County Leather Association, San Jose
- The Threshold
Society, Los Angeles
- The Eulenspiegel Society(TES), New York City
- Black Rose, Washington, DC
- Arizona Power
Exchange, Phoenix
International
The legal situation of sadomasochistic activities varies greatly between countries. In Japan, Germany and the Scandinavian countries, consensual BDSM is legal. In other countries it is an example of a consensual crime.
At least in the western, industrialized countries and Japan, since the 1980s
sadomasochists have begun to form information exchange and support groups to counter the discriminatory image held by orthodox
science and parts of the public. This has happened independently in the USA and in several European countries. With the advent of the web, international cooperation has started to
develop - for example Datenschlag is a joint effort of sadomasochists in the
three major German-speaking countries, and the mailing list Schlagworte uses the model of a news
agency to connect six countries.
Documentaries about BDSM
References and further reading
- Pat Califia. Sensuous Magic. New York, Masquerade Books, 1993.
ISBN 1-56333-131-4
- Gloria G. Brame, William D. Brame, and Jon Jacobs. Different
Loving: An Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission Villard Books, New York, 1993. ISBN 0-679-40873-8
- Anita Phillips, A Defence of Masochism, Faber 1999.
- Jay Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction, Greenery Press, 2000. ISBN 0963976389.
- Philip Miller, Molly Devon, Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism,
Mystic Rose Books, 1995. ISBN
0964596008.
- Gloria G. Brame, Come Hither : A Commonsense Guide To
Kinky Sex, Fireside, 2000. ISBN
0684854627.
- William A. Henkin, Sybil Holiday, Consensual
Sadomasochism : How to Talk About It and How to Do It Safely, Daedalus, 1996. ISBN 1881943127.
- Robert Bienvenu, The Development of Sadomasochism as a Cultural Style in the Twentieth-Century United States, 2003,
available in PDF format at http://www.americanfetish.net/
- Timeline of events in BDSM history by Datenschlag (in German) http://www.datenschlag.org/dachs/index.html
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